Dear allies

Today, I thought I’d inform you that, often, you’re Doing It Wrong.

When you refute autistic stereotypes by saying that autistics have the full spectrum of emotions, you are doing it wrong. When you then question the humanity of a theoretical emotionless persyn, you are doing it very, very wrong.

When you counter stereotypes of asexual autistics by saying that everyone has a sexuality and hence wants to have sex in some way, then you then talk about how only sociopaths don’t feel love or much empathy? You are doing it dreadfully wrong.

You see, the thing about stereotypes is that there are people who fit them. And people like you erase them along with the stereotypes, and sometimes even shame them, for making everyone else think that you’re like us.

For daring to exist, to be portrayed in the media by someone who isn’t one of us and having our very selves made into a tool of bigotry against our will. And that? That’s doing it wrong. That is, to misquote a video game announcer, good old fashioned wrong.

That’s a wrong as old as the Cthulu-loving Kyriarchy. And that is a wrong you are going to avoid, unless you want it to stand. That is a wrong done to my own self by supposed allies for too long, and allowed to continue only because too many hate themselves too much to refute it.

This is not a chicken-and-the-egg situation.
The Kyriarchy stereotypes, the Kyriarchy is your bloody problem.

The people it stereotyped ain’t, and harming us will get you nowhere.

About chassisbird

Chassisbird is autistic, trans, a survivor of abuse, possibly gray-asexual, queer, polyromantic and very into D/s. It uses it/hir pronouns, tends towards apathy and would like to resemble a spider much more closely.
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1 Response to Dear allies

  1. You can tell who is really an ally by how they react when you object to what they have done to “support” you.

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