To cis people who need it.

“If a guy says.I like blonds that’s ok.If he says i like trans women.He may as well have just put a child’s hand in a blender on frappe”

“Blonde” is a simple, not terribly varied physical trait. In the country where I live, there is no discrimination against blondes by people of other hair colours, and blonde people do not discriminate against people of other hair colours. You can look at me and tell that my hair is a drab middle-ground between blonde and brown and therefore not fitting your preferences.

“Trans woman” is an incredibly complicated trait so hugely variable that there is no shared trait between trans women other than being women, the trait itself rooted in one’s mind and twisting up into an artificial social class. There is discrimination against trans women everywhere, and you’ve almost certainly been bombarded with it in ways both covert and overt since you understood the ideas of gender or sex. When you look at me, you can’t tell if I’m trans, let alone if it’s one of the rare hours where I’m a trans woman.

It’s therefore, then, only when you are told by me or someone else that I’m a trans woman that you are particularly attracted to me or repulsed by me. And that might be a lie, but you’ll still be more attracted to me, or less, depending. You are, in effect, fetishizing or repulsed by the fundamental idea of someone being trans.

And unless you started this reaction of fetishization or repulsion very early or developed language late, you have been bombarded with a full ten years of covert and overt messages, at the very minimum, that trans people are freakish, disgusting, obscene, not right, all men or binary-violating, dehumanized its. It takes a grand total of a few seconds of condemnation or praise from someone you trust to bias your opinion for or against someone, and so what do you think a minimum of 8 to 10 years of the most vile condemnation does to your preference for or against trans people?

Your preference that is irrefutably, objectively based solely on your idea of trans people? What do you think it does, you whiny, entitled chaser fuckbag who posted in a trans group I frequent with “tranny” and “shemale” in your fetish list, the tawdry slurs of porn producers and transphobes? What do you think it does, professed lesbian who claims a natural lack of attraction to trans women?

Why do you think that every fetishizer of trans people I have ever seen has been part of one of the endless procession of cis male chasers with their transphobic slurs, their remarks about how trans women are exotic and the best of both worlds and all that transphobic, cisnormative and binarist shit, always with an unapologetic misgendering lurking behind them, just for my CAMAB, mostly gender-neutral self?

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About chassisbird

Chassisbird is autistic, trans, a survivor of abuse, possibly gray-asexual, queer, polyromantic and very into D/s. It uses it/hir pronouns, tends towards apathy and would like to resemble a spider much more closely.
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